If you try to win every day, you don’t need to do anything different, no matter the peaks or the valleys.
This is an idea from Mark Miller’s newest book “Win Every Day,” That comes out March 10th. It is a quick business fable that is straight money. (Total side note, you should click here and pre-order a copy of the book. This isn’t an affiliate link, I just think you really need it) There were a handful of other thoughts and ideas that I could write about, but this is the one that jumped out the most. The reason why this jumped out to me is because I find myself getting so flustered when things go wrong or issues keep on compounding one on top of another. What this idea means is that as long as we are trying are absolute best and giving every day all we have, we don’t need to worry about the outcomes. Yes, it is easy to say that when we are “winning” or things are going are way, but this idea is just as true when the stuff hits the fan. It doesn’t make it any easier, but it does give us freedom to not beat ourselves up over the mistakes or losses that we will experience over the day. When we try to win every day, give it our absolute best, it allows us to not over celebrate the wins and it keeps us from wallowing too much in the mistakes.
Yesterday, I found my mecca.
It is a place of heavenly treats and pies that seemed to have come straight from heaven. I could continue on by talking about the perfect piece of Bourbon Chocolate Pecan pie, yes you read that correctly, but before I digress anymore… I came to my mecca and met one of the owners of, Lauren. Her and her husband Cody have made a quaint and deliciously southern pie joint that most would consider an overnight success.
In talking with Lauren you begin to understand that it was actually through long hours, tears and an unbelievable community that it has become the success that it is today. The biggest take away from the conversation was that in business, everything happens in steps. They didn’t just quit their jobs and open a pie shop, they ended up taking a small step when Lauren started making pies on the side for coworkers and friends. After they realized she couldn’t keep up with the demand of making and giving away pies for free, they started selling them. Each step lead to the next until she and her husband decided to go all in and open the shop.
Once they opened the shop, it was all rainbows, unicorns and pies. Actually… it wasn’t. It was 80+ hour weeks, tons of hard work, tears shed and many burritos consumed. But, that isn’t where the story ends. In fact, it is still continuing on and they have seen massive success and won a national competition put on by the Cooking Channel called “Sugar Showdown.” None of this happened overnight and none of this was one giant leap.
What got Lauren and Cody to the success they are experiencing today is small steps. It’s the small steps of creating amazing customer experiences, creating an unbelievable culture, and loving your employees well that turn out to create a huge “overnight” success.
Dates, adventures, and trips don’t have to be extravagant. Those things can be ordinary and that is more than ok.
Right now my family doesn’t have much if any expendable income. That absolutely sucks at times because issues with health, cars and anything else that life brings keeps us from doing anything the world or Instagram would deem exciting. I want to offer my family the world so not being able to do cool “noteworthy” things is a big hit to my ego.
What I am constantly being reminded of is the fact that dates with my wife don’t have to be big shindigs. Maybe it is us just Netflixing and Chilling… or whatever the kids are calling it now-a-days. Maybe a date is me grabbing chips and queso from a local place and making margaritas at home so we don’t have a big liquor bill at the restaurant. Maybe it is us just going on a quiet walk around the hood. All of these ideas have minimal expense and are anything but Instagram worthy, but they allow us to connect and have fun. The truth is, I don’t want to divorce my wife in 30 years because I don’t know her. Just because we don’t have the money doesn’t mean we can’t do dates and connect. The same idea holds true for time with my kids or time with the family as a whole. We are blessed that my in-laws own a cabin an hour away from where we live so vacations or time away doesn’t cost more then some groceries and gas.
This lesson that things don’t have to be extravagant but can be ordinary is a tough one and something my wife and I have to keep on reminding ourselves of constantly. I promise, if you latch on to this concept, not only will your wallet thank you, but you won’t live in guilt as it gives you freedom to just enjoy your wife and your kids. Now go do something ordinary.
The biggest lesson I am learning right now is that every freaking thing is happening in seasons.
I know, that that in and of itself is incredibly obvious but I know it is something that we all forget. We all long for something more, something better or something different. We long for the raise, for the job promotion or to be a part of a different company. As we are longing for the different, we forget the simple fact that where we are today is not where we will be in the future. As long as we keep pushing, striving and doing, we will not be in the same place a year from now as where we are today. Yes, physically and maybe even hierarchically in the organization you may be in the exact same place, but if you have been learning, striving and growing, you have much more to offer and can use those new skills to impact yours and others futures in a positive way.
Remember, business is all about seasons and just because you may be in one where the walls, floors and ceiling are covered in crap, it doesn’t mean that is where you will be in 6 months or beyond. Keep learning and keep taking those small steps forward.
Stories change everything. A story can be the sole difference between you getting a sale, a new connection, a new job or perhaps even the man or woman of your dreams. Let me explain what I mean with a short story.
In October of this past year on of my brothers got married. For the groomsman, he had picked out some suits. Like the many times before, when I got the suit back from the tailor, multiple pockets were still sewn shut. I grabbed a little pocket knife that I had and cut the thread so I could actually use the pockets. I figured that there would be others who’s suits where in a similar disarray, so I brought the knife on the wedding day. Low and behold I was correct. The best man, a guy that has known our family for decades, ended up needing to use the knife. When I finished up he handed it right back without a second glance at the knife. As he handed the knife back my other brother who was also one of the groomsman spotted the knife.
His face lit up with joy because it was one of the knives that he had brought back after serving overseas near the Middle East. As soon as the best man heard that this knife was a gift from my brother, everything about it changed. He asked to see it again and he held it with respect and awe as my brother, who gifted the knife, was able to tell a little about it and his time in the army
As I said, stories change everything. They turn an ordinary knife into something worth taking a second glance at. Stories are so important that before we go into any of those moments that could be life changing, we need to make sure that we are prepared. Prepared not just with general background information on the other person or company, but prepared with a story that clearly illustrates why using you, or what you offer, is a game changer.