If you don’t truly know yourself, how do you ever plan to get better and plan against your weaknesses?
Something I have come to realize is that I like to go full speed ahead and do things before asking any questions. It is a trait that has been incredibly helpful at times, and also incredibly destructive. In my professional life it has helped bring about great life changing experiences, yet at the same time it has caused me to put my foot in my mouth and cause issues because I hadn’t fully planned.
Now I absolutely love this trait about me, but I realize that it can have a pretty negative affect if not controlled. Over the past 10 months I have seen this trait of “do first and plan later” time and time again. Most recently it was when I called a handful of friends trying to convince them we should put on a small sales conference. I was taking steps and getting people to do tasks when a I ended up having a conversation with a trusted mentor. The life altering observation he made was that I was taking too big of a bite. He asked the question,”What is one small step you can take that you could rally people around?”
That question changed everything. It made it go from a conference to s small monthly get together of young professionals over coffee or beer.
That one question shined a big light on a giant weakness of mine. Ever since that weakness has been brought to light, I have changed how I plan and do things. Now I am far from perfect as I still catch myself running ahead without asking the needed questions, but at least I am aware of it and can plan against it by having trusted people in my life tell me when I am rushing ahead and trying to take on too big of a task.
I’m not sure what your weaknesses are, but you need to get some trusted folks around you to help shine a light on what they may be, so that you can plan against them.
What is your weakness and how can you plan against it?
Whether you are on the job or behind the wheel, put away those distractions. One of the areas I am most guilty of is having my cellphone out on top of my desk while at work. Yes, my job requires that I have it with me almost at all times, but that doesn’t mean it needs to be in plain view.
Now I can hear some of you thinking and mumbling right now, “Well he doesn’t have my job.” “He doesn’t know all that I do and I need to see my phone at all times.” Let me just stop you right there can call bull on that. Most people reading this blog are not saving lives, so let me assure you that your phone doesn’t need to be in view at all times. Even if you are saving lives, your mind needs time to rest and relax. If it is constantly on and looking at that glorious screen, it will never be able to recharge.
When we are constantly distracted and are minds are always going, it makes it so that we are never giving anything our best. We find ourselves tired and stressed because our minds are constantly wandering. Oftentimes we complain that we never have enough time to complete big projects, and a huge part of that issue is that our concentration is constantly being broken up by buzzes and dings from our greatest addiction. Once we are distracted, it takes time to get our focus back and be fully engaged. When we are constantly being distracted and drawn away, it adds unnecessary time to our projects and puts us behind on all that we do.
Please, do yourself a favor and store your phone in a drawer on silent during those big tasks. Keep it out of view for the bulk of the day while you are working. When are distractions are put at bay, it is amazing how much more we can get done and how we actually feel refreshed because our minds will have a moment to wander and recharge.
What are some of the tips you use to stay focused and keep the distractions at bay?
These past 11 days have been rather unique. I recently had surgery on my hip… yes, I am 31 years old and had to get some work done on my right hip. Even though it was outpatient surgery it still shook things up quite a bit. I have been on crutches, unable to drive, limited in some of my functions and mobility, and have had to be far less active than I normally am. Through all of these changes and issues, my wife has been a freaking beast and has killed it.
“For better or worse, in sickness and in health.” Most of us whom are married have uttered these words, and over these past 11 days my wife has perfectly executed on them. I am blown away at her level of service and how she so deeply cared for me. She met my every need and then some. She was always there asking what I needed and offered up help and solutions to problems and wants I didn’t even know that I had
It’s in these inciting incidents, these moments of giant change, when we as people can really shine and make an impact, and that is what my wife did. It has encouraged me to take my game up to 11 and serve her not because of what she has done for me, but because she is more than worth it. When you are served and loved in this way, it only encourages you to do the same. So please let this blog not only honor my wife, but be an encouragement to you to honor those words, “For better or worse, in sickness and in health.” Let this blog be an encouragement to look around you and serve well those that are in your life.
Who is in your life that you need to serve well, and how can you live it out today?
Valentines Day… it’s just another corporate holiday that marketers have taken over so that men and woman can be forced into passionless nights of pressure filled “romance” and spend way to much money on crap you don’t need. Can I get an amen.
Oh, and by the way, I don’t believe anything I just wrote. If you don’t celebrate valentines day with your significant other, that is totally up to you, but as for me, I see this day as a brilliant reminder to love and pursue that special someone. I know what your thinking, “Paul, I pursue him / her every day,” And to that I call bull shit. Lets not kid ourselves, thats just not true. For most of the folks who would agree with the above paragraph, I am willing to bet that your significant other only feels pursued three to four days out of the year: Your anniversary, their birthday, Christmas, and maybe one other day thrown in there for good measure.
Valentines day is a gift, and it doesn’t have to cost you much, or any, money depending on what you actually do. This is a day that is forced into our society for sure, but it is one that I take as a blessing because it gives me an amazing excuse to direct my attention not only to my wife, but my kids as well.
I want my kids to know how to pursue their love. I want my son to know how to woo a woman and I want my daughter to know what it is like to be wooed. I want to build up in her this understanding that if a man doesn’t woo her, he is not worth her time. She is a beauty to be taken on an adventure, not just to be looked at and potentially admired. By the time my kids are really ready to date, I want to have given them an amazing example for them to follow.
So to all those haters out there… take a second look at this potentially under-marketed holiday full of sugar, delicious meals, and lots of trees sacrificing their lives so you can express your love via a card. Take a second look and realize the opportunity you have been given.
Happy Valentines Day
P.S. Let me know what exciting plans you have for your love.