These past 11 days have been rather unique.I recently had surgery on my hip… yes, I am 31 years old and had to get some work done on my right hip.Even though it was outpatient surgery it still shook things up quite a bit.I have been on crutches, unable to drive, limited in some of my functions and mobility, and have had to be far less active than I normally am.Through all of these changes and issues, my wife has been a freaking beast and has killed it.
“For better or worse, in sickness and in health.”Most of us whom are married have uttered these words, and over these past 11 days my wife has perfectly executed on them.I am blown away at her level of service and how she so deeply cared for me.She met my every need and then some. She was always there asking what I needed and offered up help and solutions to problems and wants I didn’t even know that I had
It’s in these inciting incidents, these moments of giant change, when we as people can really shine and make an impact, and that is what my wife did.It has encouraged me to take my game up to 11 and serve her not because of what she has done for me, but because she is more than worth it.When you are served and loved in this way, it only encourages you to do the same.So please let this blog not only honor my wife, but be an encouragement to you to honor those words, “For better or worse, in sickness and in health.” Let this blog be an encouragement to look around you and serve well those that are in your life.
Who is in your life that you need to serve well, and how can you live it out today?
Sometimes it’s the simple truths that have the biggest impact, yet it’s those same truths that seem to slip from our mind time and time again.
As I was reading one of my favorite bloggers / idea-guy’s, Jon “The Mythic Man” Acuff, he mentioned a simple truth that has been sticking with me ever since.“Where you are is just for now… it’s not forever.”In reading this, it hit me like a ton of bricks.As I have been mulling this truth over in my mind a couple of examples started to form.
The first is with my kids. My wife and I are in an extremely tough season with whiney kids, whom we love dearly, that have so much energy and always seem to be hungry.There are times we ask ourselves, “Do you think we will miss this stage?”We always answer yes with the understanding that we won’t miss all the whining, but we will miss this stage of life that is so precious and innocent.Soon and very soon we will blink our eyes and they will be in middle school with acne on their face. Then we will blink again and they will be in college and swooning over their “true loves.”We will blink once more and they will be out on their own, carrying on the Stippich legacy and possibly have their own families.As I said, where we are is just for now… it’s not forever.
The other example is with my job.I love getting to partner with so many people and have so many conversations about all sorts of topics.I am also an avid learner and consumer of content which has helped me have better conversations with those I interact with.Is my job perfect, heck no, but it has offered me unbelievable experiences that I wouldn’t trade for anything.In moments where I may be frustrated at my current standing, I go back to the simple truth that where I am is just for now…It’s not forever.I have no idea how long I will be with my current company, but what I do know is that I am going to act as if it’s for 30 years, yet hold it loosely for whatever opportunity comes my way.
We all need to take a moment to breath in those moments of stress and realize that they won’t last forever.Remember, that as long as you are learning and growing, pressing into relationships, and preparing yourself for the next opportunity, wherever you are is just for now…it’s not forever.
Valentines Day… it’s just another corporate holiday that marketers have taken over so that men and woman can be forced into passionless nights of pressure filled “romance” and spend way to much money on crap you don’t need.Can I get an amen.
Oh, and by the way, I don’t believe anything I just wrote.If you don’t celebrate valentines day with your significant other, that is totally up to you, but as for me, I see this day as a brilliant reminder to love and pursue that special someone.I know what your thinking, “Paul, I pursue him / her every day,” And to that I call bull shit.Lets not kid ourselves, thats just not true.For most of the folks who would agree with the above paragraph, I am willing to bet that your significant other only feels pursued three to four days out of the year: Your anniversary, their birthday, Christmas, and maybe one other day thrown in there for good measure.
Valentines day is a gift, and it doesn’t have to cost you much, or any, money depending on what you actually do.This is a day that is forced into our society for sure, but it is one that I take as a blessing because it gives me an amazing excuse to direct my attention not only to my wife, but my kids as well.
I want my kids to know how to pursue their love.I want my son to know how to woo a woman and I want my daughter to know what it is like to be wooed. I want to build up in her this understanding that if a man doesn’t woo her, he is not worth her time.She is a beauty to be taken on an adventure, not just to be looked at and potentially admired.By the time my kids are really ready to date, I want to have given them an amazing example for them to follow.
So to all those haters out there… take a second look at this potentially under-marketed holiday full of sugar, delicious meals, and lots of trees sacrificing their lives so you can express your love via a card.Take a second look and realize the opportunity you have been given.
Happy Valentines Day
P.S. Let me know what exciting plans you have for your love.
If we want our businesses, teams and even our families to have a culture that doesn’t suck, we need to celebrate a little more often.If we start to celebrate both the big and small victories more often, it starts to build unity and to create stronger bonds with those we work and do life with.
The other day my wife went to my sons parent teacher conference and she was blown away by what the teacher said. (Get ready for some proud parent bragging.)Our son received glowing remarks in almost all his categories, was called advanced, and the teacher admitted that at times she runs out of activities to do because he whizzes right through them.Plus, one of the teachers said, “He has my heart.”I freakin love my son.
This parent teacher conference was on Wednesday, and so on Thursday when I picked him up from school, we went to a local artisan donut shop that is on our way home and picked out some donuts to celebrate. Now I am glad that we got some donuts to celebrate, but many times before and since we have devoured those delicious pastries from heaven we have made sure to tell our son how proud of him that we are and how awesome he is doing at school.BUT, I have also been abundantly clear with him that as proud as Daddy is with him over this report, I am most proud of him because he is my son.I want him to know without a shadow of a doubt that I love him and am proud regardless of his accomplishments.
If we want our businesses, teams, and families to have a culture that doesn’t suck, we need to celebrate the junk out of things.Whether it is a big or small victory, we need to take the time to mention it to the person or persons who accomplished that task.Forget the fact of whether you are in charge or not, take a moment out of your day, walk up to the person or persons, and say something.Better yet, celebrate the junk out of that accomplishment because Lord knows we need more of that in our lives.
Who do you know that has done something big or small that you celebrate the junk out of something with?Got that person in mind… now go ceeeeeeeeeeeeeeelebrate good times, COME ON!
I’m not sure about you, but if I had to choose between a toxic or healthy culture, I choose healthy everyday.The real question is, if you find yourself in a place that breeds distrust, anxiety, and broken teams, how can you counteract that and fight against that toxic culture?Today we are going to look at the third thing we need to do to start shaping and shifting the culture of where we find ourself.If you missed the first post… just click here, and if you missed the second post… click here.
We are finally at the K in the year of ASK.The K is by far the hardest yet most rewarding step in this whole process.The K stands for Keep moving forward.Keep pressing into those relationships we have been building by asking questions and commenting on what we are seeing.When we ask those questions and focus on the relationship over the opportunity, it starts to shift and shape the culture.When we comment on things we are seeing others do, those actions, if positive, get repeated or, if negative, stop happening.
The K is difficult because we want to see instant results, but real culture shifting ideas and actions don’t always happen overnight.Culture shifting ideas and actions take time.We need to constantly be pressing into those relationships we are building because we don’t know what is going on in the other persons life.We don’t know what story they are living and what is happening behind the curtain.
No matter a persons title, position, or circumstance, they have a story that needs to be heard, and the only way to do that is by living out the year or ASK.