For Better or Worse, In Sickness and in Health


These past 11 days have been rather unique.  I recently had surgery on my hip… yes, I am 31 years old and had to get some work done on my right hip.  Even though it was outpatient surgery it still shook things up quite a bit.  I have been on crutches, unable to drive, limited in some of my functions and mobility, and have had to be far less active than I normally am.  Through all of these changes and issues, my wife has been a freaking beast and has killed it.

“For better or worse, in sickness and in health.”  Most of us whom are married have uttered these words, and over these past 11 days my wife has perfectly executed on them.  I am blown away at her level of service and how she so deeply cared for me.  She met my every need and then some. She was always there asking what I needed and offered up help and solutions to problems and wants I didn’t even know that I had

It’s in these inciting incidents, these moments of giant change, when we as people can really shine and make an impact, and that is what my wife did.  It has encouraged me to take my game up to 11 and serve her not because of what she has done for me, but because she is more than worth it.  When you are served and loved in this way, it only encourages you to do the same.  So please let this blog not only honor my wife, but be an encouragement to you to honor those words, “For better or worse, in sickness and in health.” Let this blog be an encouragement to look around you and serve well those that are in your life.

Who is in your life that you need to serve well, and how can you live it out today?

Dad Life: Husband

Thirty and Thriving

Yesterday, December 11th, was my wife’s 30th birthday!!!
Y’all, I am one of the most blessed people that you will meet. Lindsay is literally a saint, not only because she has to deal with me on a daily basis, but because she also sacrifices all that she is for the betterment of her family and home.  She really is a Proverbs 31 wife.
I am so blessed to know her and she truly has made me a better man.  She is constantly giving of herself to this family and also to her friends.  She is one of the nicest and most caring people that you will ever meet.
I know yesterday wasn’t exactly how she thought her 30th would be, doing laundry and tidying up the house after our hurricane of a son plays with all of his toys, but she took it in stride and made the absolute best of it.  I don’t know why I am blessed with someone so selfless, but I am so thankful to God for it.
There were a few fun things about yesterday that made her day special.  Sam made her breakfast in bed and his elf even brought all of us cupcakes to celebrate. Although, he had taken a bite out of Lindsay’s cupcake… silly elf.  We also got her some bath bombs from Lush which she has been wanting to try for a very long time.  The night ended with a nice dinner with her parents at Marlow’s which was so much fun and quite tasty.  It was the perfect way to end the day and celebrate my beautiful bride turning 30.

#Thirtyandthriving #Dirtythirty

Dad Life: Family

How To Give Your Wife The Perfect Night Out.

My wife is a beautiful, kind, caring, and giving woman.  I mean, I am not exactly sure what I did to deserve her, but let’s just say when I realized she was way out of my league, I went and put a ring on it. Thanks for the advice Beyonce.
I wanted to share some tips and tricks with all the men on how to give your special someone a perfect night out with their friends without the kids.
The first bit of advice I have is for you to realize that giving that special someone a perfect night out is all about perception. Just as in magic, it is all about perspective and the perception you create.
Tip Number 1:  Send updates throughout the night. Maybe a vague text talking about how great your kids are doing and how much fun you are all having. Rookie Mistake: Don’t take this too far saying that you wish you could do this every weekend, because when you use phrases like that you start to set off alarms for your significant other and they can sense that something is up.
Tip Number 2:  Send picture / video evidence of only the positive things. Just like Facebook and Instagram, don’t post the poo. Post only the good stuff.
Post pictures like this:

Not This:

Tip Number 3:  Don’t let a text from your significant other go too long without being answered, that can cause worry. Rookie Mistake: Don’t answer the text too fast either. What if they text and you are in the middle of dealing with a crying baby? Please, don’t be a dum dum and answer right away.  Wait until the baby stops crying to text, and then tell her how your baby isn’t crying and you all are having fun. (Review Tip Number 1)
Tip Number 4:  Make sure you don’t check in too often, that shows weakness, that the kids are breaking you, and you are counting down the seconds till she gets home. Even if this is the reality, hold out soldier, because just as we learned in one of those batman movies, the night is always darkest before the dawn.
Tip Number 5: Show evidence that the kids are still alive and being put to bed. Yep, this one is pretty self explanatory.
Tip Number 6:  For the love of all the things good and holy, make sure you clean up the house. I am talking no toys everywhere, counters wiped off, food put away, human waste put in the trash.  Make sure the place looks better than when she left. This is perhaps the most important tip, please don’t forget it.

So… there you have it. Six tips, with a couple of rookie mistakes to avoid, on how to give your lovely significant other a fantastic, worry free night out with her friends without the kids.
Enjoy the magic.

Dad Life: Husband

Money Is King And Grace Is Overrated.

My wife and I have been on this financial journey for awhile now.  It has come with a  lot of ups and downs and some great lessons.  This past week I was slapped in the face with a reminder that I am still breaking myself of the love of money, and the fact that I get to add another “You’re the worst” trophy to my mantle.  I think I am up to five or six trophies now…goodness I am on fire.
As some of you may know, Lindsay and I moved into our new house just over four months ago and we have done quite a few things to make it our “forever home.”  Currently my wife is having the itch to give our dining room a makeover and that means I get the pleasure of breaking out my painting skills.  Lindsay and her aunt, who is an amazing interior decorator, had been conspiring last week and decided on some potential paint colors for the room.  Lindsay took our daughter Emma on some errands, one of which was to pick up some Sherwin Williams samples, and I took Sam on some errands, one of which was to pick up some paint samples from Home Depot.
As Sam and I were being manly men with our shirts off running and skating through the isles of Home Depot like any manly man does at home depot, I get a call from Lindsay.  She said she thinks we got the paint names mixed up and that I grabbed the wrong ones from Home Depot.  She also mentions that Sherwin Williams didn’t have the paint colors she wanted and that they had to make up their own mixture and do the best color match to the swatches that Lindsay brought.  I thought that was strange but didn’t think too much of it. After Sam and I stop doing all the manly things men do at Home Depot, we went home to discover what really happened.
It turns out that Lindsay had accidentally requested the wrong paint samples from Sherwin Williams. The color samples that she requested were the ones that you would get at Home Depot.  I was pretty frustrated because that meant that Lindsay wasted a trip out and that I would have to do an extra run to Sherwin Williams when I didn’t have to.  I kept harping on this mistake for about ten minutes and couldn’t get over how we not only wasted a trip, but also $10.00.
I know… just reading this you all are thinking “what an idiot,” but it gets better. Well I huff and puff all the way back to Sherwin Williams knowing that we are going to have to buy more paint.  As I get to the front counter and tell them of our mistake, the lady goes above and beyond and does an exchange on the paint samples when on the receipt it clearly says there would absolutely be no returns of any kind.  I mean wow, just a nice punch to the gut as my world comes to a halt with an act of undeserved and rule breaking generosity.
When I get home I have the fun task of apologizing for being such a big dummy and responding like that with Lindsay.  It is never my goal to belittle or make her feel bad.  I know that as  a husband I still have some massive growing to do.  As I look back,  my response to her accident communicated that money is king and that I have no grace.
I’m thankful that my wife is so understanding, forgiving, and that she puts up with my stupidity.  I’m also grateful that she doesn’t just accept me for my shortcomings and short fuse, but that she helps guide me and gently nudge me to have more grace, be more  generous, and have a longer fuse.  IMG_3050